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Hello and Welcome! We are just another couple struggling with infertility but having fun and trying to enjoy the journey.

Friday, February 24, 2012

Well hello weekend, it's nice to see you again

Happy Friday - It's almost the weekend!

For us DINKs (Dual income no kids) the weekend is usually filled with rest, relaxation and getting stuff done. Usually a run or two in the warm spring sun (one can be hopeful :) ) and a few drinks here or there.

Which is a good segway to: Do you stop your life when TTC?  No caffeine, no runs, no alcohol? There's a lot on the internet, one can drive themselves crazy.  WebMD has a good list of "Getting Pregnant" tips, however I really think conception is more on chance and God.  Some people conceive on their first try, some it takes years and years, and some never succeed. I hope I'm in the middle somewhere.  Though I am not a Dr (disclaimer) obviously a woman needs to be healthy before conceiving.

I often wonder what will happen when we "stop trying." As any veteran TTCer knows, you get a lot of advice when you tell someone you've been trying for awhile.  One time I'd like to say thanks but no thanks. But no, you, as a good person, listen as they go on and on about decreasing stress, not exercising, not drinking Green Tea (I've been told it's a natural birth control. Really? Maybe I should have been drinking that vs. spending $20/month at Walgreens).  You know they are trying to help so you grin and bear it with a smile on your face.

When you throw in the towel, what happens?  Who do you become? Your a forever DINK. You become the "fun aunt and uncle."  Is that enough?

For now, I will continue my life and if it happens it happens (or so I try to tell myself).  I've heard wine is the cure all :-)

Happy Friday everyone! Any fun plans?


Wednesday, February 22, 2012

The land of What-ifs

We live in a land of "what ifs".. what if I hadn't been such a big runner, would I have gotten pg? What if we had tried in our twenties? What if we lived closer to family?  Unfortunately it does us no good, except cause worry and undo stress. 

In Yoga, they instruct us to "Stay in the Moment."  You know how hard that can be..we are always making lists in our head, thinking of what to have for dinner, what is going on at work, etc.  Last night I tried a new Yoga class and the last 30 minutes was a walking meditation.  Meditation is any form of a family of practices in which practitioners train their minds or self-induce a mode of consciousness to realize some benefit.  (source:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meditation)

That last 30 min was the toughest part of class. 

I'm not sure how to "stay in the moment" and not worry.  I'm still working on that myself.  All I can say/do/offer is to slow down and smell the roses.  Life is short!   


Tuesday, February 21, 2012

All about us

My. First. Post.

Beginnings are usually scary, endings are usually sad, but it's what's in the middle that counts. So when you find yourself at the beginning, just give hope a chance to float up. And it will.” 
― Hope Floats

Corny but it's so true. I think of TTC as a journey.  Hence why I named our blog as such (and because FD (the hubby) always says it).

How did we get here?  We are 30 somethings who found "the one" in our mid-twenties.  Married at 27 (him 29) and decided to wait to start a family. A decision I regret.  But can't live in the life of regrets.

Went on many vacations, enjoyed "being married."  Then in 2009 we decided it was time, time to welcome a little one in the world.  3.5 yrs later we're still waiting.

We were "diagnosed" (I say this lightly as it's basically "I have no idea why your not pg") with unexplained infertility. No. Reason. Why.  Frustrating some days, but others I thank the Lord it's not anything serious.

I created this blog to help.  Help others like me, hopefully reach out to one person so they also know they are not alone. Alone in the world of everyone getting pg around you. It happens to all of us, and as much as we say it doesn't bother us, we all know it does. So you're not alone!

I will leave my first post at that.


Monday, February 20, 2012

Construction Site

Well hello there, thanks for stopping by. This site is in process...please stay tuned!