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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

A letter to my 28 year old self

I've seen a few IF blogger do this and I really liked it so here we go..

Hello 28 year old self,

Back in 2008 when you and the hubby talked about taking that last pill in Feb 2009, you would never have thought this journey would be so challenging.  Doesn't it just take sex to make a baby?  You will go off BC and assume it will happen in the next few months.  Oh how wrong you will be.  But you will get through it.  It is truly a journey and you have the best partner.

You will have good days, many bad days and days where you want to throw in the towel.  But we're not quitters so don't give up.

You will have days where you pretend that everything is fine and you're happy taking trips because it fills the void.  It may for the time being, but when you return to real life you're back to being sad.  Hang in there.

You will become great at pretending.  But know there are so many resources out there, You're not alone. Even though IF feels like such a lonely journey..

You will have angry days. Angry at life, angry at how unfair it is that couples not trying just happened to get pregnant and that's okay.  It's also okay to skip events, unhum, baby showers because, well you just can't bear to see another swelling belly.

You will lose friends but you will gain friends.   Friends that understand and are really there for you. Turn to them, even when you feel like you sound like a broken record.  That's what friends (and family) are for.

I'll say it again, you have the best partner.  You're never given more than you can handle, and you can handle this.


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