Pretty much any family party falls into this category. It's not so much what people say (because 99% won't say anything), it's what they are thinking and the sad eyes they give you. You know they are thinking oh she's drinking, must not be pregnant.
This past Christmas we debated not going to any family gatherings. Especially since 2 weeks prior we found out IUI#1 didn't take. But we went
Every IF is different. Some don't want to talk about it, some are totally open and don't mind. If you're a friend/family member of an IF, good luck, it's an emotional topic and we're not responsible for our actions (ha ha blame the fertility meds :D ). This past Christmas Eve, I had a family member ask what was going on, what were we doing, etc and I appreciated the up front questions. Fast forward 3 months later I wasn't invited to her baby shower. Ouch.
Here are some of my "Surviving the holidays" tips:
1. Drink, kidding.. maybe..
2. Plan something really fun during/after the holidays. It may be a trip you can talk about or something as simple as sledding with your spouse.
3. Stay off touchy subjects if you're feeling emotional. Change the subject.. talk about the weather. Did you hear J Lo is dating a 25 yr old??
4. Limit exposure or skip events if you need to.
5. Wear something fun and sexy. New shoes!
When all else fails, have a staycation. Enjoy the holiday in your pj's.
Hope this helps..after 3.5 yrs of surviving the holidays, it doesn't get any easier.